Saturday, October 01, 2005



I believe in mess, tears, pain, self-abasement, loss of self-respect, nakedness. Not caring doesn't seem much different from not loving.
-Tom Stoppard, The Real Thing

In the way that almost 18-year-olds can, we sat in the Grand Tetons, talking earnestly until the night was gone. The night was filled with earnest dreams and honest conversation. A bond forges itself easily in two who link up as stranger openly, when fingers know their hearts were born on the same uncharted planet.
- Liz Strauss

Mr Iemma, I want to kick that "but" of yours. You can be a family man and enjoy the opera. You can like sports and the arts Art is for all, no buts about it

Art of Living & Literature Across Frontiers: There's a Place for Us: Imposters
In many walks of life--and business is no exception--there are high achievers who believe that they are complete fakes To the outside observer, these individuals appear to be remarkably accomplished; often, they are extremely successful leaders with staggering lists of achievements. These neurotic impostors--as psychologists call them--are not guilty of false humility.

The sense of being a fraud is the flip side of giftedness and causes a great many talented, hardworking, and capable leaders to believe that they don't deserve their success. "Bluffing" their way through life (as they see it), they are haunted by the constant fear of exposure. With every success, they think, "I was lucky this time, fooling everyone, but will my luck hold? When will people discover that I'm not up to the job?" Fear of failure, fear of success, perfectionism, procrastination, and workaholism. He then describes how perfectionist overachievers can damage their careers, their colleagues' morale, and the bottom line by allowing anxiety to trigger self-handicapping behavior and cripple the very organizations they're trying so hard to please. support


The Dangers of Feeling like a Fake [Business people who believe they are frauds exist in every organisation and at every level of responsibility The Dangerous Insecurities Behind Our Masks ; Relax there's no such thing as too much work Where does neurotic imposture comes from? ]
• · The Decline of Marriage and Loyalty - When we make marriage less important, character suffers. In addition to the fact that married people are happier, wealthier, and sexually more satisfied than are unmarried persons or those cohabiting, it turns out that married people and their children are less likely to commit crimes The Ties That Do Not Bind: : Mourn the loss and Breaking Up Blues - everybody has been at the end of a relationship. Even if it’s an unrequited crush in high school. I think everyone’s qualified. Many people who have gone through divorce say it's like an emotional roller-coaster ride: one day, you feel depressed and guilty; the next, angry and vengeful; and the next, hopeful and calm Break-ups hard but bring opportunities ; Breaking up is hard to do, a stressful process. Deal with the Stress of Divorce - Don’t Divorce Yourself
• · · What do you call six hundred lawyers at the bottom of the sea?” Answer: A good start ; How come that Albanians need 27 words for moustache? How come only German has a word for 'a person who leaves without paying the bill' (Zechpreller) Weird and wonderful vocabulary from around the world
• · · · What The World Needs Now Is A List ; Life is a dream a little less inconstant Oates: Feelin' It
• · · · · That's when I reach for my revolver ; Scrappy, hoary writers receive honorary National Book Awards The Naked Admiration and the (Nearly) Dead
• · · · · · Tooth & Claw or Too Cold? ; LENINGRAD JOURNAL Leaving creates an